I participated in a Positive Discipline two-day workshop in the first week of Teacher Orientation led by consultant Joy Marchese. Positive Discipline is a philosophy that underpins how a school forms relationships between teachers, students and parents. Perhaps it is the term “positive discipline” that confuses people; it is NOT a behavior management system, but a way of thinking or a philosophy. It is based on the principles and tools of positive psychology originally developed post World War I child guidance clinics in Vienna, Austria. The work of Alfred Adler (1870-1937) focused on the concept that children (and all humans) have the need to belong and contribute to a community. A child misbehaving can be often thought as a discouraged child pursuing belonging through mistaken means. I think it is endearing that he broke from his contemporary, the famous Sigmund Freud, and in the long run, was more correct in his psychological beliefs and practices. Rudolf Dreikurs (1897-1972) a student and later colleague of Adler, brought Adler’s ideas to American and made them more useable for parents and teachers. The basic ideas of Dreikurs and of the modern Positive Discipline movement are as follows:
- The four mistaken goals of misbehavior are attention-seeking, power, revenge, and assumed inadequacy. Understanding the goal tells an adult how to respond.
- Logical consequences versus punishment. Consequences should be related, respectful, and reasonable, and should teach rather than humiliate.
- Encouragement over praise or reward. He saw encouragement as the central tool for building a child’s confidence and capability.
- Democratic classrooms and families. He promoted class meetings and family meetings, with children participating in problem-solving, a sharp break from the authoritarian norms of his time.
The modern Positive Discipline movement is associated with the work of Dr. Jane Nelsen and her 1981 book, Positive Discipline. The workbook details many practical techniques and activities that teachers can use immediately. The trainer, Joy Marchese, was knowledgeable, relatable, and engaging taking us through two full days of workshops. I highly recommend her!
The philosophy fits with how I approach student relationships. Adults and children show mutual respect and adults form warm but firm relationships with students. It is so natural, so human, to form a community and that is basically what a classroom is. It is one of the first communities children belong to outside of their home. In this age of the internet and digitilzation that are isolating people, schools must bring the benefits of community to all children at an early age.
I learned a lot over the time with my colleagues and Joy. She also weaved in basic good teaching techniques based on brain research. Our school has a significant number of local hire teachers new to international schools. The philosophy of Positive Discipline may be new to many of them who went to school in more traditional settings where the teacher is the “master of the universe” and the students are obedient receptacles of knowledge and skills.
I won’t share all my notes but do want to share one example of the philosophy in action is as follows:
A teacher clearly reminds students to wear a jacket for recess because of the cold temperatures. A student refuses this request and goes out for recess without her jacket. A few minutes into recess the student approaches the teacher asking to go in to get her jacket because she is shivering. The teacher applies Positive Discipline by lending a sympathetic ear, but reminds the student that they were asked to wear a jacket. The teacher goes on to encourage the student to find a solution to the problem. The student, with help from her classmates, discovers that if she runs around the playground, her body warms up and she is able to stay outside for recess. This is labeled a “LOGICAL CONSEQUENCE” in PD jargon. The teacher allows a logical consequence (student feels cold) and from a bad decision (not to take the advice of a teacher) The next time a teacher advises students to wear a jacket, the student will remember how cold she was and will wear a jacket outside. This is a better approach with the student rather than shaming the student (I told you so!) or not following through with your instructions, “this time you can go in” or rescuing the students (use my jacket) that does not foster independence, or (I brought your jacket) that shows mistrust in the student. The correct response is to show empathy “Yes, it is cold” return the agreement, “I asked all students to wear jackets and that you couldn’t return to the classroom” and then encouraging the student to solve the problem, “How else can you get warm today?”. Shivering is a logical consequence of a bad decision and by allowing the student to suffer, the teacher is showing empathy and kindness because the student is learning how to be independent.

























